Lovecat

Among the many absurd and badly paying jobs I’ve had–ghostwriting a mail-in Ph.D. on economics, wrapping holiday Crate and Barrel purchases in enough paper to have kept little Jesus warm, translating Richard III  into easy English–one I recall without shuddering is as an all-purpose office assistant to some all-purpose Israeli émigrés in the Bay Area. Their various schemes included buying rundown apartment buildings, renovating them for cheap, and then renting the units at a steep markup. This being only a few years after the quake of ’89, another project was to retrofit houses to withstand the next big quake. (Retrofitting, said my sister, a structural engineer, is pure construction quackery.)

The Ashkenazis owned the apartments and fomented the plans, while the Sephardis did the dirty work, as they always had, they said–these swarthy, stocky, beautiful men whose families arrived in Israel from Egypt and Morocco or merely stayed put in what they had known as Palestine. Up until the late ’60s, the Sephardis were called blacks–after the American situation–and were kept down.


They taught me modern Hebrew parables–there are hundreds, as you might expect, redolent of desert, with abundant stone and bird. In exchange, I vetted their theories on American women. Their main evidence was an advertising executive who lived in one of the renovated apartments. She had slept with one of them and quickly tired of him. He was outraged: How could a person treat sex so casually? How could it mean so little?

Which somehow led to cats–what was wrong with them. Cats, as opposed to dogs (read: Israeli women?), would never do anything for you: no fetching of slippers, no ingratiating wagging of tail. The arrogant bastards lived entirely for themselves.

I am not a “cat person,” as people like to put it, any more than I’m a “people person,” so I knew what the man meant. I have witnessed many a cat get what she wants while remaining largely impervious to the person giving it.

But not Noodles, not Lump-Lumps–not Alfredo Fettuccine Scherr, who died on July 17 after a run of almost seventeen years.


WHENEVER WE WENT TO THE VET, I’d exclaim, “Isn’t he beautiful!?” and the doctor would say yes–what choice did she have? But she also said, unprompted, “What a good cat. What a sweet cat.”


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Isn’t he beautiful?!



Alfredo was impressionable. He was responsive. He ventured into
territory he would never entirely understand simply because it was where I was.


For example, there was the dance. It began 12 years ago, with him meeting me at the front door and racing through our railroad apartment to the bedroom in the back, where he executed quasi-Aikido rolls that finished with his bunny feet flopping up into the air as he landed heavily on his side. He did this one move until he calmed down enough to let me rub his belly. Within a month I could summon the belly-rub desire with, “Do the Dance, Alfredo. Do the Dance.” In the weeks before he died, when he hardly had a belly to rub or much to feel pleasure about, he was still falling to his side to await my giant hand.

Unlike his human, Alfredo was taciturn most of his life. Other than squawking at the birds when we lived in an apartment level with a wild garden (did he mistake himself for a bird or hope to trick them?), he mainly communicated by the distances he kept, plopping himself down just out of reach or way out of reach. He wanted attention, but not so much as to be pounced on. Once he hit middle age, though, and his bones began to creak, he came closer and learned to rant. Stationed next to my desk so I wouldn’t miss a word, he’d start off mildly but soon be overtaken by a juggernaut enthusiasm that rolled on for whole minutes: a cat rendition of me.

He also learned late along to wonder about the Great Beyond–or at least the hallway. No matter how much I might try to disguise it, he must have sensed that I didn’t always leave the apartment reluctantly. Sometimes when he was at loose ends–when the je ne sais quoi of contentment had escaped him–he’d remember the bolted door and make a dash for it, impatient to wander under the flickery florescent lights and sniff. (Watching him down the hall, I was struck again by how big he was: softer than a fox and not so high, yet at least as long. At night in bed, though, his size was never in doubt, especially when there were three of us. Spread out stiffly wherever you were hoping to put your arms, your legs, your feet, or head, he became unrearrangeable: a lunk.)


Two and a half years ago Alfredo developed chronic renal failure. This progressive kidney disease is nearly synonymous with old age in cats, so many of them die of it. But in the meantime (anywhere from six months to a few years), the cat feels pretty good as long as he’s eating and drinking. The problem is, he experiences hunger as nausea and doesn’t want to eat. Alfredo, once an avid diner (“He chomps like a dinosaur,” complained a friend), would hardly touch food or water on his own.

So after trying all sorts of fussy-cat foods, I fed him myself. I’d snatch him off the bed, where he’d assumed a defensive crouch as soon as he saw me coming (when I waited too long, he’d take the position unprovoked), and carry him into the bathroom. Wrapped in a towel and held between my legs, he’d down droppers of imitation fish-milk with smacks and gulps and grunts and sighs. We reminded my mother of the Madonna and Child. I thought Fern and Wilbur from Charlotte’s Web was more like it, but it did feel special.


IN THE LAST MONTHS on the way to the bathroom, he fell into flamenco deep song, with the keening descending chords expiring in an exhalation of despair. If he was silent, I’d start us off–and Alfredo, king of suffering, would sing louder and longer to drown me out.

My life revolved around twenty-seven droppers a day, five to seven at a shot, timed as well as my work would allow to keep his nausea at bay. I had a job away from home now that often held me late; on the subway back to Queens, I scrawled my schedule on the backs of envelopes:

feed alfredo 
pet alfredo
do stretches
feed alfredo
dinner
feed alfredo
bed

It was the job I resented, not the feedings. After a meal Alfredo sat sphinxlike on our mattress, his eyes half-closed in pleasure. I lay face down with my nose pressed against his side and wreathed my arms around him; he draped a paw over the closest arm, as if to say, You are mine. 

It is possible that a person trapped in such close quarters with me for sixteen
years would also eventually have shown he felt my love, that I mattered, that I
had touched him: proof that I am not alone. But it probably wouldn’t have been so clear. Person-to-person love can seem awfully like self-duplication or self-betrayal–and vice versa. With Alfredo, there was no danger of getting mired in a hall of mirrors: however many of my habits he took on, I would never mistake him for me. You can tell you’ve touched him, but you don’t worry about the you or the him. It’s a wonderful paradox that, in being so alien, an animal allows you the same unself-consciousness he glories in. You find yourself in him without even knowing it’s you.

Alfredo changed me–the ideas I live by. More and more, I imagined the luxurious fruitlessness of lying all day on bed or carpet, in soft holes in backyards, on piles of dirty clothes in closets that reeked of cat at his mustiest, with nothing much to think about or worry over. My wretched food would be provided for, and the special lady’s enormous face would rub against my whiskers. Shaded in melancholy, Alfredo proved the perfect source for daydream: I wouldn’t have to relinquish my muddy mix of feeling to be in his place.

But he couldn’t have said how he felt, like I can. It’s an old question, what humans gain from our keen consciousness. And for me it’s had a particular New York cast to it for the last ten years. I moved across the country, to a room with a view of pigeon-shitted brick, because I didn’t want to be an office assistant for scheming Israelis forever. I wanted work that mattered.

Now that I’m older and more defeated (that’s a New York state of mind, too), I’m not sure any work could matter as much as a big, soft hole. The month Alfredo died, I added another absurd job to the roster. The week at the office ends with the usual ritual questions about what you’re doing this weekend. People understand that those two leftover days may say more about you than anything over the last five. When, a few Fridays ago, a colleague asked me, I said, “I’m going to lie around with my kitty.”


For Alfredo, in a warm, soft hole.


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  1. says

    I agree, beautiful tribute to Alfredo. I am so sorry to hear about this. A lot of people don’t understand what it is like to lose a beloved pet. Your essay is so heartfelt, and eloquently examines so many of those feelings. It brought tears to my eyes too…

  2. Judy says

    Oh, I am so sorry! This is the first post of yours I’ve read & I understand COMPLETELY how you feel. My beloved cat Fergus was supposed to die from FIV two years ago. He is with us still, & I cherish each day w/ his intelligent, affectionate, mischievous self. My heart goes out to you.
    Judy

  3. Benita says

    I also just lost a cat to renal failure – she was 19. Up until the week before she died, she never let any of the other 10 cats forget who was the Queen of the household! One has to admire that kind of spunk.
    It takes a special man or woman to love a cat (or any species for that matter) and to admit that love. You are a special person and your cat was lucky to have picked you as his caretaker.

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